The Importance of politeness and expression when communicating
Being polite is a complicated business in any language. It is difficult to learn because it involves understanding not just the language, but also the social and cultural values of the community. We often don't appreciate just how complicated it is, because we tend to think of politeness minly as a matter of saying please and thank you in the right places. In tact, it involves a urcat deal more than the superficial politeness routines that parents explicitly that parents teach their children, as the discussion of directives and and expressives suggested. Take the word please for example. Children are told to say please when they are making requests, as a way of expressing themselves politely. But adults use please far less than one might suppose and, when they do, it often has the effect of making a directive sound less polite and more peremptory. Compare the pairs of utterances in this example, for instance. (al) Could you take my bags up? (a2) Could you take my bags up, please. ...